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{Slow Down Mama!} It's OK To Ask For Help!

{Slow Down Mama!} It's OK To Ask For Help!

OK! I'm gonna get really REAL with you today. I was going to kick off the February Slow Down Mama! series with BEing still. I had already started writing the post and added the picture.

Then I saved it as a draft and headed to the grocery store with Little C.

Since D has come home from his 10 weeks of training, I told him I will either grocery shop by myself OR we'll all go together as a happy family of 3! :)

Well, last weekend we all came down with stuffy noses and rested. Sunday night I was feeling a little panicky because I didn't have any meals planned for the week.

Having a weekly menu plan to go by eases this mama's mind BIG TIME! It's nice to have one less thing to think about.

So, yeah, my "to-do list" mind was pretty much working like this... "Ohmygosh, what in the heck are we eating this week?  There's NO good take-out around that I know of yet! I gotta get to the store!"

We did OK for the first part of the week with leftover soups and some pork fried rice that I was able to whip up with our last bit of food. And last night we ended up ordering a pizza.

But, come this morning, Little C was almost out of milk and the fridge was pretty much on E.

I HAD to go to the store with Little C (even though it's 40 and windy out!).

Being there this morning reminded me of those 10 weeks as a single mommy.

I felt like I was rushing around like a crazy mama because Little C  SO wanted out of the cart and everything I gave her to hold she kept throwing on the floor (great work-out for me!)

I don't know about you, but when I have a little girl itching to get out and run around and I don't have any help with me (husband, grandparent, friend), my feet start walking ten times faster.

The best part was at the very end. I went to get D and I ice cream.  I have to REALLY look at the flavors because it has to be something that D and I agree on.  Today, I couldn't even THINK while looking at them!

Little C was letting me know she was READY to GO HOME and I was talking to her and looking at the flavors at the same time.

While looking at the ice cream I was like...what the heck do they say?  Just pick one as fast as you can so we can GET OUT OF HERE!  LOL!

After I paid and our bags were loaded in the cart, I was ready to zip out of there.

The friendly bag helper asked me if I need help (they usually don't carry out our bags).

Guess what I said???

No thanks!

Then I was walking toward the door and a friendly worker at Customer Service called over to me and asked if I needed help.

Guess what I said???

Oh, no, I've got it. Thanks! (His eyes popped open and he looked at me like REALLY?)

I walked out the door and to the car as fast as I could (because the cold wind was a blowin').

As I put Little C in her car seat, I thought to myself ...Renee!  What the heck!?!?  You definitely could have said yes to the help.  You could just be focusing on getting Little C in the car and almost all the bags could be in the car right now! You still have to bring the cart back up by the store, too!  OMG!

I get Little C settled, and then I begin placing the bags in the trunk.

2 seconds later a nice bag helper approached me.

Guess what she says to me? "Would you like some help?"

Guess what I say???

Sure! (FINALLY, Renee! Geesh!)

She says, "I saw that you had a little one with you.  It's cold out."

OMG! Could the universe knock on my door any louder!?!? LOL!

On my drive home, I realized that I do need to let others help me.

I think this is (well, I know this is) an area I struggle with.

When they first asked to help me with my bags, I just thought, nah, I can do this.  It's no biggie.  I do it all the time with baby in tow.

I guess I feel like I only need help with the BIG things.

It never really occurred to me how something so little as helping put grocery bags into my car when it's freezing outside and I have an 18th month old who is ready to run like the wind is really a BIG, BIG help (and not to mention, another great way to help me s-l-o-w d-o-w-n and catch a breather after racing through the store to get our food for the week).

I mean, that's what we all want to do for each other, right! That's what doing a service is, right!

That's what I want to do for others, too! That's why I have this blog and my business.  That's why I was a teacher. That's what I want to do for my family, friends and even people I don't know.

We all want to help each other. That's what we're here to do, right!

So this month, I'm going to slow down by stopping and allowing myself to let others help me (BIG or small).

It's the perfect time to add this in to because this is the month I finally decided to start looking to hire a babysitter. And, let me tell you, it's freaking me out a lot some.

So this is good.  REAL good!

When I think about all the ways that I could use some help, I feel this awesome sigh of relief feeling come over me.

But, I can only sigh that relief once I finally stop and say yes to the help.

Even though it can feel weird and I can have some fears with it, I'm gonna do it anyway and I'll let you know all month how it goes.

What about you?  Have you ever found yourself taking it all on and not stopping to ask for help?  What did you do to finally get past that and ask for help?  I'd love any advice that you have! :)

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